Poem - Anniversary Without

It has been a while since I have posted. This is a more recent post from my webpage, if you want to see more on various topics, poems, satire, essays, and pieces I wrote about my dad's death, and many other musings which might distract you for a while and might even bring a smile, go to lifeafteremilee.com. 

So many of us have lost loved ones. Anniversaries, birthdays, and so on, are tough times for us. I wrote this last week. I have been busy. Involved in a writing workshop that took up much of my time since early May. 

 

What do you want someone to say to you, what do I want someone to say to me, what do I say to someone, who spouse has died, and their anniversary date arrives…do you say something to them, or do you ignore it like the pink elephant in the room? Lots of times I don’t even know the date unless the person has mentioned it. In which case, the elephant is now hanging around. How do I handle its presence? Well, for one of my friends, these lyrics just seemed to come to me. I will get the chords written out at some point, I am starting to hear the tune in my head. For now, here is what started out as a poem, and is a song in progress.

 

Anniversary Without

 

It ain’t much I can say

To say I know about my pain

But I figure yours ain’t too much different

In a lot of ways, it’s different and the same

 

Now I just need to cry out

That I can feel what you must be goin’ through

Moving back and forth ‘tween past and now

It takes its toll on you, I know it takes its toll on me

I know you’ll get through all this somehow

 

And you feel good and then you don’t

Part of you wants to move forward and part says you won’t

You get all mixed up and confused

And you wonder when all this battling stops

Can you shed your skin again and not betray

All the memories that you got at bay?

 

Now I just need to cry out

That I can feel what you must be goin’ through

Moving back and forth ‘tween past and now

It takes its toll on you, I know it takes its toll on me

I know you’ll get through all this somehow

 

And you feel good and then you don’t

Part of you wants to move forward and part says you won’t

You get all mixed up and confused

And you wonder when all this battling stops

Can you shed your skin again and not betray

All the memories that you got at bay?

nmk

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Well done, Uncle. Profound and thought-provoking. You have a great knack for putting into words what many of us think about but often don't articulate. It's refreshing. Hugs :*)
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Thanks for this, Neal. You are a gem. I will never get over your coming to Barbara’s funeral. Our fiftieth is coming up in August. We celebrated both of our parents’ fiftieth and I was hoping we would make it. Thankfully I will be with my children and raise a few glasses to her. They are doing well and for that I am happy. This morning was another round of tears for me. But your poem speaks to that. Love to you and all my BFAC friends.
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